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Added on Tue 5th Aug 2014 3:40pm   Last edited on Wed 6th Aug 2014 3:59am


A pain or a joy?

So, we have all been there and experienced loss. Initially the pain is so intolerable it can put  us on our knees. We cry, sob, dont eat, dont want to get up, stare at blank  walls, become withdrawn and isolated and any variation thereof. Is this the healing process? Sure doesnt feel good in the beginning. 

What causes this pain? Is it the act of remembering or is it the finality of the loss.

I have lost many people in my life and when I think back now the pain I felt then has been replaced by a calm feeling of joy. Yet the same act that once caused me such pain "remembering" now  puts a silent smile upon my face and oft makes me laugh  aloud.

Begs the question as to wether grief is pain or a joy?

Added on Wed 6th Aug 2014 3:59am   Last edited on Wed 6th Aug 2014 3:59am

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Sharing your experience with grief reminded me of this quote.  

Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope” 


? Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

Sharing the pain and joy that you experienced in grief can offer Hope to those that are still in the forest of sorrow. 

 Joy can be found in the beautiful memories!